Hands down, without a doubt, the personal quality I cannot stand in others is cheapness. This bothered me when at the age of 13 I had a close friend who would count every nickle and dime and it continues to bother me today. It bothers me so much I almost have a sixth sense about it, if I start to sense this trait in a person it’ll immediately turn me off and although I may continue to be friends with them the friendship won’t go as deep.
The least favorite trait in myself? How ironic but the two are related. My least favorite trait is this notion of tit for tat. I keep score. I can’t help it, there’s no denying it’s my true nature but something I fight against everyday. If I treat a friend to dinner, the original intent is one of generosity, I want to treat my friend to dinner. But afterwards, if they never reciprocate this will bother me. So am I being bothered because they are “cheap” or because I’m keeping score?
Hey! Here’s my second attempt at replying. I’m not sure if you’re final question was rhetorical or not but here’s my $.02. I don’t think you are “keeping score” in a bad way. I think that in order to maintain emotional health, it’s important to know your worth and to be protective of that. I think that you are incredibly kind and generous and also a smart cookie. And being smart, aware and honest to ask yourself those kinds of questions and if someone can’t be those things, are they worth the emotional energy and effort to keep around?